My mother decided to drop out of college to get married with my father despite her parents and her brothers protest against it. Later she found out that she was his “secret wife”, he was already married with 4 children. My mother was so devastated, she left my father after 4 years of marriage with 2 children, me and my little sister. (I got this story from my grandmother since my mother refused to talk about my father and her marriage.)
Apparently she loved and trusted my father so much that this thing traumatized and scarred her for life. She never moved on. She left my father when she was 27 years old and looks like her whole life also stopped there. She never remarried. She rejected every guy that tried to approach her. She said she couldn't trust men anymore.
She also stopped pursuing her future. She didn't go back to college or try to find a job. We lived with my grandparents and my mother's brother supported us financially. My mother completely lost her ambitions, it's like she had given up on life and chosen to live day by day just surviving.
We didn't really struggle financially, my uncle gave enough, but the fact that my mother chose to give up at a very young age and not be able to live her life fully saddens me. She's 54 now, she has spent another 27 years of her life living under the trauma that my father left. Looks like time doesn't always heal.
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