And both of my parents are workaholics, they divorced and both remarried (multiple times). Looking at them, knowing that I got the genes and learn from the "best", I know I have no chance to be a good mother.
So I decided then, I will not have children.
that's about 15 years ago.
My decision hasn't changed. The reasons haven't changed much either. I never liked children. I never had that "biological motherly need" to hold a baby. In fact, I'd rather stay the hell away from them. Infants and toddlers cry too much, young children are just annoying, teenagers are the worst. I don't even want to deal with people who're under the age of 21. Call me cold-blooded bitch, I don't care, I don't want to hold your baby and make crazy screaming sounds. I'd rather hold a kitten and make crazy screaming sounds.
I still have a lot of dreams, now it's more like tangible, step by step career plans. I want to do a lot of things with my life, none of them involves starting a family, cooking for my dear husband and changing diapers. I feel quite strongly about it because I feel that I need to defend my choices, all the time. Sometimes it's the obvious questions, the look, the "you'll regret it when you're old and miserable and you have no one"; sometimes it's the seemingly harmless statement such as "if you haven't been a mother, you're not complete as a woman!" I hate it. motherhood is great, yeah, I get it. But there's no need to glorify a simple biological function.
So what do I do when I'm old and sick? I invest in 401K and buy myself some topnotch medical/hospice services.
Read other answers by Feifei Wang on Quora:
- What are some stories about your dad you would want your kids to know about?
- What stories about your mom would you want your kids to know about?
- What is the best advice your mother ever gave you?
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