'You think life is hard in puberty? You'll see what hard is when you're out of school.'
'You think your job is stressfull? You'll see what stressful is when you have a newborn.'
'You think you don't have enough energy taking care of a newborn? You'll see how life is running after a toddler.'
'You think you don't have time for yourself with your toddler? Try having two little kids.'
'You are overwhelmed with having two little kids? Enjoy them now before they turn into aggressive teenagers.'
Every stage in my life, when something was hard for me, instead of just listening to what I have to say I got these sentences from everyone. They didn't help at all, I just felt weak for suffering when really my problem is just a joke compared to what's ahead. These sentences not only ruined the present as they did not help overcome that little thing that was hard in that stage of life, they also made me fear of what's ahead.
I had a hard time and depression as teenager, it DID get a lot better when I started working. My job was very stressful, so after a few years I was really happy to go on parental leave to raise our girl. Even if she was very tiring as newborn with her colics. But also this got a lot better when she turned three months, but I can't enjoy her being the wonderful, cute, wiggly baby she is, because apparently, according to people, once she crawls it will get so much more tiring etc. I also don't get why teenagers are supposed to be a nightmare as my stepsons are easygoing and kind boys.
If someone is going through a short hard episode (puberty, taking care of newborn etc.) just listen to them, tell them it will get better, because usually that's what happens in life. You get stronger, you get more experience and you get nearer in fulfilling your dreams.
My life gradually became more wonderful, even if every new episode brought new challenges. I stopped listening to people :)
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